US Emergency Room Visits – What to Expect

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My mother, unfortunately, had to go to the Emergency Room (ER) and this was a new experience for JiaYou. Her impressions are below.

JiaYou:

美国进急诊经历:

A local Emergency Room at a hospital – hopefully your visits here will be few and far between

进急诊,不可思议就是有病临时发作了才去的地方。婆婆中午跟我们说要进急诊,我没多想连午饭也没吃就陪着她一起去急诊了。我想进急诊肯定都是很紧急了才会去,没想到婆婆连住院的衣服都准备好了,考虑的还是蛮周到的。以下是我在急诊的经历:

 

 

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End of Life – Death of an Elderly Relative and the Long Road Leading There

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Death.

It puts everything in perspective. We only have a finite time on this earth. Even for those who believe in Christianity, Islam,  Buddhism, or another religion where the immortal soul continues into an afterlife, coming face to face with death stops us in our tracks.

Although we may have near death experiences throughout our lives – hopefully few and far between – we most likely will face it the form of an elderly relative’s passing.

My grandmother was a staunch and lifelong Catholic and received her last rites before she died.

This is what happened to me, when my grandmother passed away this past spring at the incredible age of 104. She lived through two wars and was a refugee each time as a result. The second time, she moved to the U.S. and started life anew, a stranger in a strange land.

In contrast to China, Americans and many other Westerners put the elderly into nursing homes paid by the government once the effort of care by family members becomes too great. In Asia, the elderly usually rely on their adult children for comfort and economic means of support. It shows the emphasis placed on youth and vigor to affect the future, as opposed to age and experience to reflect on the past. It’s hard to say if this is right or wrong. It’s just the value system in place here.

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Introduction to Chinese Churches in the US – Where to Find Chinese in Suburbia

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Outside the Chinatowns in main urban centers of the U.S., it can be difficult to find a Chinese immigrant or second generation Chinese community for newcomers. But, in fact, in more suburban areas there actually are Chinese communities – they’re just harder to find because they are more spread out.

Sanctuary of Trinity Church in lower Manhattan near Wall St. This is where, incidentally, Alexander Hamilton is buried.

As non-intuitive as it sounds, the most common and strongest of these communities is the Chinese church; they are the main civic and social community centers for recent immigrants and their children.

You don’t have to be Christian to go to one – in fact, like all Christian churches they have a strong sense of evangelism and want non-Christians to come. But if you only want community and never want to even hear/talk/ask questions about Christianity, it’ll eventually become uncomfortable for you.

 

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Our Backstory and USCIS Immigration Tips for Chinese Citizens

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Some of you may be curious about some of the details of how JiaYou and I met, our life in Shanghai, and how we navigated the USCIS immigration process. So here are some highlights and some tips!

Chinese immigrant love story
My search for a water dispenser bottle led to true love

How We First Met

JiaYou and I met quite randomly. I had just finished at a private Mandarin language school near People’s Square and was looking for a new apartment in the Xujiahui area of Shanghai before starting my job as a project manager at a China markets research firm.

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Restaurant Tipping in the US – Yes, It’s Really Necessary

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One of the more peculiar practices in American and other Western cultures is the custom ironclad rule of tipping in certain individual consumer level transactions.  Despite being “voluntary,” the consequences of not tipping at all or even just tipping below what is considered acceptable would probably lead you to receiving poor service in the future or an irate waiter running after you as you leave.

US restaurant tipping – yes, it’s really necessary

Tipping in this sense is definitely not standard in China, but to put it into the Chinese context, it’s best to think of it as the red envelopes stuffed with money (hong bao) that you are expected to pay government officials or your doctor/surgeon to simply do their jobs. JiaYou would probably take issue with this, but I think it’s actually quite similar.

 

 

 

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Driving (and being a Pedestrian) in New York vs Shanghai – Part 1

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One of the more subtle differences between New York and Shanghai (which can be generalized to Western and Asian societies overall) is the relationship between motorists and pedestrians.

AddingOil’s perils as a pedestrian – to be fair, this is just illustrative as this photo actually wasn’t taken in China!

In the U.S., pedestrians are treated as the equivalent of an endangered species. They are to be protected at all costs (admittedly, this is probably related to being a highly litigious society), and at times coddled (which is very much the case on the West Coast). In fact, in many East Coast cities, such as NY and Boston, pedestrians can even have an arrogant demeanor, assuming right of way without regard to their physical safely. If you honk at them when they are not walking with the light, they’ll actually glare at you and act indignant!

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Chinese National Holidays: Embracing Ambivalence?

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Happy Chinese New Year! (or actually, Happy Spring Festival, which is the more precise English translation of 春节快乐!)

This is more so a Flashback post, as we didn’t do much authentic Chinese celebration here in the U.S. other than making dumplings and giving the red envelopes (or hongbao) with money to my nephews and niece. Hopefully next year JiaYou can comment on what CNY is like in NYC’s Chinatown! Continue reading “Chinese National Holidays: Embracing Ambivalence?”