End of Life – Death of an Elderly Relative and the Long Road Leading There



It puts everything in perspective. We only have a finite time on this earth. Even for those who believe in Christianity, Islam,  Buddhism, or another religion where the immortal soul continues into an afterlife, coming face to face with death stops us in our tracks.

Although we may have near death experiences throughout our lives – hopefully few and far between – we most likely will face it the form of an elderly relative’s passing.

My grandmother was a staunch and lifelong Catholic and received her last rites before she died.

This is what happened to me, when my grandmother passed away this past spring at the incredible age of 104. She lived through two wars and was a refugee each time as a result. The second time, she moved to the U.S. and started life anew, a stranger in a strange land.

In contrast to China, Americans and many other Westerners put the elderly into nursing homes paid by the government once the effort of care by family members becomes too great. In Asia, the elderly usually rely on their adult children for comfort and economic means of support. It shows the emphasis placed on youth and vigor to affect the future, as opposed to age and experience to reflect on the past. It’s hard to say if this is right or wrong. It’s just the value system in place here.

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Introduction to Chinese Churches in the US – Where to Find Chinese in Suburbia


Outside the Chinatowns in main urban centers of the U.S., it can be difficult to find a Chinese immigrant or second generation Chinese community for newcomers. But, in fact, in more suburban areas there actually are Chinese communities – they’re just harder to find because they are more spread out.

Sanctuary of Trinity Church in lower Manhattan near Wall St. This is where, incidentally, Alexander Hamilton is buried.

As non-intuitive as it sounds, the most common and strongest of these communities is the Chinese church; they are the main civic and social community centers for recent immigrants and their children.

You don’t have to be Christian to go to one – in fact, like all Christian churches they have a strong sense of evangelism and want non-Christians to come. But if you only want community and never want to even hear/talk/ask questions about Christianity, it’ll eventually become uncomfortable for you.


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